620 Dr. Gabor Maté — The Myth of Normal, Metabolizing Anger, Processing Trauma, and Finding the Still Voice Within

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In this episode, Tim Ferriss interviews Dr. Gabor Mat, a renowned speaker and bestselling author who is an expert on topics like addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Mat discusses his new book, The Myth of Normal, which explores how trauma, illness, and healing are impacted by toxic culture. Dr. Gabor Mat recently participated in a plant ceremony with Indigenous Canadians, which he says was a life-changing experience. He talks about the Canadian government's history of abuse towards Indigenous people, and how he feels called to help them heal. This is a conversation between Dr. Gabor Mat and Tim Ferriss about a plant medicine experience that took place with a local Indigenous First Nations community. The plant used was a mushroom, and the community members said it felt very familiar to them, as if it was in their DNA. Dr. Mat brought his Western psychological training to the experience, and together they were able to work through some of the traumatic imprints that the community members carry from their history. Dr. Gabor Mat describes his experience taking peyote in the context of a Native American ceremony. He talks about how the experience of love was new for him, and how it was a full-body experience. He also talks about how the experience of presence was very impactful for him. In his book, The Myth of Normal, Dr. Gabor Mat tells the story of leading a retreat for medical professionals in Peru where they work with the plant ayahuasca. He describes his own experience with the plant medicine, which was not as profound as many of the other participants. The next day, the Shipibo shamans who were leading the retreat came to him and said that he had been given a "thick skull" and that they had been unable to penetrate it. The author was fired from his own ceremony and retreat because the shamans said he had a "dark, dense energy" that was affecting everyone else. They believed that he had absorbed the traumas of the people he had worked with and

Dr. Gabor Mat, a psychiatrist and author, discusses his work with shamans and healers in helping Western doctors deal with trauma. He notes that the brain is able to develop new circuits and ways of understanding in response to new experiences. Dr. Mat himself now practices yoga and meditation regularly as part of his self-care routine.

In order to heal from trauma, we must first become aware of it. Dr. Gabor Mat discusses the brain system of rage, which is the anger that arises when our boundaries are being transgressed. He explains that if our boundaries were infringed as a child, we may have suppressed our rage in order to survive. However, this can lead to problems later in life if the rage is never expressed. There is a difference between healthy anger and rage. Healthy anger is a boundary defense that helps to preserve your life or safety. Rage, on the other hand, is a response to the past that can be triggered by something relatively minor. Dr. Gabor Mat discusses the Buddhist concept of RAIN (recognize, allow, investigate, nurture) as a way of processing rage. He explains that by recognizing and allowing the experience of rage, and then investigating its root cause, we can begin to nurture the part of ourselves that had to suppress the rage. In this conversation, Dr. Gabor Mat and Tim Ferriss discuss the concept of "radical acceptance" and how it can be applied to our lives. Dr. Mat explains that radical acceptance does not mean that we tolerate everything, but rather that we accept that things are the way they are right now. This can be helpful in healing because it allows us to make friends with all aspects of ourselves. The question is about how to balance two seemingly conflicting needs: attachment and authenticity. One example is when someone is angry with their partner but doesn't want to express it for fear of hurting the relationship. Dr. Gabor Mat suggests that the key is to remember that we often react to our interpretation of what happens, not to the event itself. So if we can be aware of that, we can choose our reaction more consciously. We are wired to attach to others for the sake of survival, but we also have a need to be authentic.

The environment is a key factor in development. In order to help a child develop self-regulation, the adults in their life need to be regulated themselves. This means staying calm and not reacting punitively or with hostility when the child is experiencing negative emotions. Allowing the child to experience and express their emotions is key to helping them learn self-regulation.

This person describes working with prisoners who have been deeply traumatized, and how the prisoners are some of the loveliest people in the world. This is a discussion between Tim Ferriss and Dr. Gabor Mat about rehabilitation in prisons. Dr. Mat argues that with the right circumstances, rehabilitation is possible and would actually cost less than the current system of punishment. Ferriss agrees, and describes his experience.

In this conversation, Dr. Gabor Mat and Tim Ferriss discuss Ferriss's interest in animal communication. Dr. Mat suggests that the appeal of this interest for Ferriss is purity. In this conversation, Dr. Gabor Mat and Tim Ferriss discuss the importance of "knowing" and how it can be achieved through animal

In this excerpt, Tim Ferriss interviews Dr. Gabor Mat about his new book, The Myth of Normal. Dr. Mat discusses the topic of trauma and its impact on our lives. He talks about how we often question our authenticity because we are programmed to mistrust ourselves, and how this can hold us back from healing. Dr. Mat also shares some of his own personal experiences with flow state and how it has helped him in his work.

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