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601 Jack Kornfield — How to Overcome Apathy and Find Beautiful Purpose

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Tim Ferriss interviews Jack Kornfield, a Buddhist monk, meditation teacher, and clinical psychologist. They discuss Kornfield's work with various patient groups, his thoughts on mindfulness and the present moment, and his current projects.

Jack Kornfield is a teacher of mindfulness and Buddhist psychology. He has written many books on the subjects, which have been translated into 22 languages and have sold over 1.5 million copies. His most recent book is "No Time Like the Present: Finding Freedom, Love, and Joy Right Where You Are." Kornfield is also the founder of Cloud Sangha, a site offering access to expert mindfulness teachers online.

The speaker reflects on their experiences with anger, noting how it can be destructive and how difficult it is to deal with. They mention speaking with others about "clean anger" and how some strategies for dealing with anger, like hitting a pillow, can actually make the problem worse.

The speaker discusses the anger that is prevalent in society today and how it is often caused by fear or hurt. They state that anger is not a bad emotion, but it is something that needs to be worked with.

The author describes how humans tend to project their own pain onto others, and how this results in a never-ending cycle of "enemy du jour." He reflects on how this is a universal human condition, and how difficult it is to break out of.

A monk reflects on his anger, and how it has led him to become more mindful. He talks to his teacher about it, who tells him to sit with the emotion and feel it fully. The monk does so, and eventually becomes more peaceful as a result.

The Buddha was tempted by Mara to give up his ascetic life, but he resisted and Mara attacked him. The Buddha was able to see Mara for what he was and did not fight back. This experience helped the Buddha to see the importance of being present for all of life's experiences, even the difficult ones.

In order to be more effective, Jack Kornfield realized he needed to express himself more fully and authentically, even if it meant getting angry. He learned this through Reichian therapy, which helped him to become more aware of his own emotions and to express them in a way that was more relatable to others.

Jack Kornfield tells the story of being with his teacher, Ajahn Chah, when they came across a large rock in a rice paddy. Ajahn Chah asked if the rock was heavy, and when the young monks said yes, he replied that it wasn't if they didn't pick it up. This showed Jack the importance of being able to witness what is present without being lost in it.

In this excerpt, Jack Kornfield and Tim Ferriss discuss the importance of speaking truthfully, even when it may be difficult. Kornfield challenges Ferriss to speak from a place of understanding and compassion, rather than anger.

In this excerpt, Tim Ferriss reflects on the challenge of not only using the right words, but also conveying the right tone. He cites the Buddha (or possibly Abraham Lincoln or Oscar Wilde) as saying "If you walk outside and one day you meet one asshole, that person's an asshole, but if you walk outside and everyone's an asshole, you're the asshole." Ferriss admits that he often struggles with this issue himself, and wonders if there is a way to systematically work on catching and changing the tone of his voice.

Jack Kornfield talks about the importance of being aware of anger and other negative emotions, and of pausing to consider how to respond in a more positive way. He suggests that imagining oneself as a Buddha or other compassionate figure can help to change one's perspective and lead to more constructive actions.

In this talk, Jack Kornfield discusses the concept of querencia, which refers to the place in bullfighting where the bull stops in the middle of the ring at some point, with the bullfighter there, and the bull and the matador are facing off. Kornfield talks about how finding one's querencia can give them all kinds of other opportunities. He gives the example of a woman who was going through a difficult divorce and how she was able to find her querencia and not bequeath a legacy of bitterness to her children.

Jack Kornfield discusses how to work with hypervigilance in people who have experienced complex trauma. He suggests that compassion is key in helping people to feel safe and to work through the grief of their past experiences.

This is a description of a method for helping people who are struggling with trauma. The idea is to allow yourself to feel the hypervigilance and say "Thank you for trying to protect me." This acknowledges the suffering and the grief that is underneath it. The goal is to create a safe space where people can tell their stories without having to worry about shattering others.

The nurses come home and they cant tell the people around them that they held three babies in their arms as they died this week. So the vets say, I cant, I cant, and this was the powerful thing, I cant tell you what I saw, and I cant tell you what I had to do, and thats the worst, because its a weight on the soul of a vet. So first we got them together, and as combat vets they found a safe space to tell their stories that they couldnt tell to anybody else. And we also invited them to write a story, or write a poem, or begin to articulate it, and its held in the body, so there was movement that we did, and martial art kind of things. There was some group songs, the songs of warriors returning from Africa, or Tibet, the Mayan, that we could chant together, and the stories of what it meant for a warrior to put down their armor and come home and become, again, part of those who till the fields and care for their families, and there are all these ancient myths about it, and people began to let all that out that they were carrying. And then in the end we invited their family to come in, and each man stood up and told at least some part of the story that theyd never told before. And as each person spoke, when it was done there was a group chant of honoring them and saying, We now welcome you back, a warrior, whove done your deeds as a warrior. You can let that go now, and we welcome you back as a human being in a new way in our midst.

In this excerpt, Tim Ferriss and Jack Kornfield discuss the potential benefits of group therapy for mental health. Kornfield shares his thoughts on the matter, noting that group therapy can be an effective way to decrease costs and improve outcomes for patients.

Jack Kornfield believes that our culture is to blame for the mental health crisis we are currently facing. He believes that our culture is driven and that we are not listening to our children.

Jack Kornfield talks about how healing is not just an individual matter, but something that we need to do together as a society. He discusses how new modalities of healing, such as psychedelic work with psilocybin, ketamine, and MDMA, can be helpful, but that the real epidemic is loneliness, and that we need to find ways to connect with each other.

Kornfield argues that it is both important to take care of oneself and to help others, even in difficult times. He says that despair is a failure of the imagination, and that human beings have dealt with difficult situations throughout history.

The speaker discusses how we survive by protecting what we care about, and how we can choose to turn towards suffering and offer help. They emphasize the importance of taking action to make the world a better place for future generations.

The 80/20 principle is the idea that 20% of our actions produce 80% of our results. This principle can be applied to many areas of our lives, including our personal relationships, our careers, and our spiritual practice. In order to be an effective Bodhisattva, we need to focus on the 20% of actions that will produce the most results. This means being present in the moment, being mindful of our thoughts and actions, and living with intention.

In one section of his talk, Jack Kornfield talks about happiness islands, and how to identify your closest relationships that bring you peak positive emotional states. He suggests making a list of your top 10 most important relationships and spending more time with them. He also talks about how people are often overwhelmed and despairing, feeling like the problems are too big to solve. Kornfield quotes his friend Joanna Macy, who has been working on issues like nuclear disarmament, climate change, and world peace for decades. Macy has developed a series of practices called the Council of All Beings, which helps people connect with the Earth and all beings on it.

In her work on climate change, Joanna Macy asks people to meditate on their connection to the natural world and then to express that connection by speaking for an element of nature they feel deeply connected to. This work is part of what she calls "despair and empowerment work" and is intended to help people face their apathy and despair and find something they are empowered to do.

The author encourages people to find their own gifts and use them to make a difference in the world. He tells the story of a woman who made sandwiches for the homeless and became a minor celebrity. She responded to people who sent her money by saying, "Make your own damn sandwiches." The author says that each person has to decide what their gift is and no one else can do it for them.

In light of current political and social turmoil, author and activist Jack Kornfield urges people to take action and stand up for what is right. He cites the example of Vietnamese refugee boats meeting with storms or pirates - if even one person on the boat remained calm and steady, it was enough to show the way for everyone to survive. Kornfield encourages people to find their own piece of moral courage and compassion in order to make a difference in the world.

Jack Kornfield talks about the impact that Thich Nhat Hanh's books have had on him, specifically one book that he remembers vividly. He talks about a metaphor in the book about doing the dishes and how it has stuck with him over the years. He then talks about death and what happens as you die, saying that you have a wide range of experiences over your lifetime.

The individual in this story was struggling with despair about climate change, until she was encouraged to visit Plum Village in Southern France. There, she learned from Thich Nhat Hanh about breathing and being present, which helped her to release some of her tension and suffering. She also learned about interdependence, and how we are all connected.

Thich Nhat Hanh's philosophy is that we are all interconnected and that we are all the same field of awareness of consciousness. He believes that we are all born and die as one and that we are all with each other.

The individual tells the story of their father, a scientist, who is near death and terrified of what happens after death. The individual tries to reassure their father that there is nothing to fear by telling him about their own out-of-body experience.

Jack Kornfield tells the story of how he explained past life experiences and the process of dying to his father, who was skeptical. He encouraged his father to experiment with it and see for himself what happens.

Jack Kornfield is a scientist who studies consciousness. He explains that we are not our thoughts or emotions, but the awareness that was born into our bodies. He describes how one can have an out-of-body experience, and how this is more common than people think.

In this excerpt, Jack Kornfield talks about the value of meditation and how it can help us to understand who we are beyond our roles in the world. He talks about how our roles are not who we are, but rather what our incarnation offers to us, and how we can use them to grow our heart and compassion.

Sorrow and suffering are everywhere, but they don't have to define us. We can find joy in the midst of pain, and our lives can have purpose even in the midst of darkness.

The author of the poem argues that we should accept our happiness despite the suffering in the world, because to do otherwise is to praise the Devil.

In "A Brief for the Defense," Jack Kornfield argues that joy is a moral obligation. He cites the example of his friend Luis Rodriguez, who is running for governor on a platform of defending the homeless and farm workers. Kornfield also references the book "The Book of Joy," which is a dialogue between Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama about joy.

The Dalai Lama and Bishop Desmond Tutu discuss the importance of joy, despite the difficult experiences they have both faced in their lives. They believe that it is a moral obligation to find joy in the world, and that we should meditate with the intention of finding happiness in others.

In therapy, one should not only work on themselves physically, but also mentally through meditation. This will help to ease anxiety and bring a sense of well-being.

In this meditation, Jack Kornfield guides listeners to remember a time in their childhood when they felt joy and adventure. He then asks them to imagine a being who represents joy and wisdom appearing to them.

Jack Kornfield and Tim Ferriss discuss the importance of connection and adventure in our lives. They also talk about a friend of Tim's who gives him a gift that symbolizes these things.

Jack Kornfield is a meditation teacher, and in this clip he talks about how meditation can help us connect with our joy and adventure. He says that when we meditate, we can expand our sense of self beyond the body of fear to a place of connection and well-being. Even when we're traveling, we can access this sense of joy and adventure by closing our eyes and connecting with our spirit.

In this excerpt, Tim Ferriss interviews Jack Kornfield about loving-kindness meditation. Kornfield explains that this type of meditation can be very effective for westerners who have trouble with other forms of meditation. He recommends doing a short meditation every night before bed for best results.

Jack Kornfield recommends doing a walking meditation for five minutes a day to change your state of consciousness. He also recommends doing a practice called loving-kindness meditation, which involves wishing well for others.

The author describes how their mindfulness meditation certification program has helped people in various parts of the world. They mention how the program is designed to help people learn meditation and to pass on these practices to others.

In order to live a fulfilling life, one must listen to their heart and trust their intuition. This means being grateful for all experiences, good and bad, and not expecting anything in return.

Jack Kornfield is a Soto Zen Buddhist monk who is also well-known for his poetry and calligraphy. In the quote shared, Rykan is referring to himself as a "foolish monk" who has not changed in the past year. Kornfield reminds us that it is not always easy to be human, even for those who focus on cultivating positive qualities.


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